It’s a sentiment shared by more than one woman.
But when it comes to being a good mate, the female gender tends to take a different approach.
When you’re a woman, you’re often expected to be the leader and the primary caregiver, a role that often requires you to act like a dominant male.
But the men who have the upper hand are often women, says Mariah Smith, a professor of human development and family studies at the University of Toronto.
“You’re expected to control everything in the relationship and you’re expected that you’ll always be on the receiving end of the other person’s affection,” Smith says.
“So when a man is not happy with you, that’s really a problem.”
What happens when a woman is upset with her partner?
“You know, it’s not just a man’s fault, it can be a woman’s fault too, and that can be really distressing,” says Smith.
“A lot of women are just like, ‘Well, I can’t handle being a bad person.
I’m the one who has to control it.
I have to control what happens.
And I’m just trying to do everything to be able to take care of my children.'”
Men are often reluctant to step forward to take charge, Smith says, because they’re afraid that a woman will feel too empowered to take responsibility for the relationship.
Women are also less likely to want to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t a strong provider.
“There’s a lot of men who feel like it’s okay to just be a partner who’s not a good provider,” Smith explains.
“And that’s what men want.”
How to talk to a man about his problems When it comes time to talk about the problem, Smith recommends trying to be “open, honest and straightforward.”
“It’s really important to not try to get into a bad fight,” Smith adds.
“It doesn’t mean that you have to have a negative argument or a negative conflict, but it’s very important to talk honestly and honestly.
The first thing you want to do is try to find a solution.”
When a man says he’s feeling unfulfilled, Smith suggests that he try to give the other side of the story.
“For instance, if he says, ‘I’m just not happy and I want to leave,’ that’s very telling,” she says.
Smith says that sometimes men will also say, “Well, it doesn’t seem like I’m happy either, and I’m not the one with the problems.
And it’s like, well, I just can’t help it.
That’s why I’m in this relationship, so that I can be there for you.”
Sometimes, it may be necessary to break the ice, and she suggests that a man should ask, “How do you feel about my problems?”
“If you’re like, what do you think?
How do you get through this?”
Smith says she would encourage men to look at their own feelings and ask, instead of being judgmental.
She also suggests that they should consider what it is that makes them feel dissatisfied in the first place.
“If I’m a woman and I feel that way, I think maybe I should look at myself in the mirror and say, ‘What’s going on?'”
Smith says of being critical.
“I think we need to be mindful of who we are, and where we come from, and what our needs are.”
Smith says women can also try to be a source of comfort for men when they’re feeling down.
“We need to say, what’s wrong with you?
Is there something you’re missing that you need?
What can we do for you?
And then when we find a way, we can help each other.”
If you or someone you know is experiencing an abusive relationship, talk to the person right away.
If they’re willing to take the time to listen to you, they can be supportive of your concerns.
“Men are much more likely to be supportive than women are,” Smith notes.
“That’s a very good thing to do.”